(LOS ANGELES) — Goldie Hawn has been with Kurt Russell for more than three decades, but the two have famously never tied the knot. That’s because, says Hawn, the relationship itself is more important than taking vows.
“A lasting relationship isn’t about marriage,” she tells Porter magazine. “It’s about compatibility and communication. And you both need to want it to work. If one person does not want it to work, it isn’t going to work.”
“Intention is the key,” she continues. “It’s also about not losing yourself in each other. Being together, two pillars holding up the house and the roof, and being different, not having to agree on everything, learning how to deal with not agreeing. Everything’s a choice.”
The actress and producer said what she and Russell care about is a healthy family unit, including her children with Kurt and those from previous relationships — Kate Hudson, Oliver Hudson and Wyatt Russell. Kurt also has a son, Boston, from a relationship before Hawn.
“We talked about relationships and commonality early on,” says Hawn. “We had nannies, there’s no doubt about it. We’ve both been working. But we were very present with our children. It’s the same way we grew up. I had a working mother, Kurt did not. My mother was right there.”
Hawn was a sex symbol in the 60s and 70s and still stuns on the red carpet, even though she’s heading into her 70’s. She tells Porter, “Getting older is a fact of life.”
“By living mindfully you understand that there are many transitions in life. You just go through them,” she says. “But it’s wonderful to know you’re aging, because that means you’re still on the planet, right? It’s all about how you make it. It’s all in your mind.”
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